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Posted by Trini Kid - - 0 comments

Sup Travellers?! Does being too nice to girls actually mess up all your chances? From experience I think that the saying "Nice guys finish last" is right with some girls but wrong with other girls because there are some girls that I treated really nicely in the past and was not friend zoned but a couple years ago I tried being a complete ass to a girl I really liked and well that didn't go very well --- and vice versa. So, what's the moral of my almost pointless story? Don't be an ass --- all the time.

Anyway, a new study posted in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin and Newsweek is revealing some scientific truths to the whole "Nice guys finish last" saying. According to the study women may initially find nice men less attractive but as a relationship goes on women find the guy more attractive if he's a nice guy.

In other words, being a nice guy only works after a guy has already established that he's NOT a nice guy on the first impressions. Makes sense right? 

The findings suggests that being too nice, too soon may come across as off-putting and creepy.

So how was this study conducted? Good question. Well, an interdisciplinary team of researchers from three institutions took 112 undergraduate volunteers and split them into even pools of participants.

The opposite-gender students interacted online, where one side either empathized with or shrugged off a recent problem in the life of the other. Then the students self-reported how attractive they found each other.

In multiple studies, the researchers found that the men who were more responsive and empathetic were considered less attractive by the women and the less responsive and less empathetic men were considered more attractive. 

However, the women in the study who were responsive and empathetic were considered more attractive to the male test group.

According to study lead Gurit Birnbaum: "Women may perceive a responsive stranger as less desirable for different reasons. Women may perceive this person as inappropriately nice and manipulative (i.e., trying to obtain sexual favors) or eager to please, perhaps even as desperate, and therefore less sexually appealing. Alternatively, women may perceive a responsive man as vulnerable and less dominant. Regardless of the reasons, perhaps men should slow down if their goal is to instill sexual desire."

So what does this study say? Nice guys finish last but nice girls finish first. Women initially find nice guys less attractive while men, on the other hand, find nice girls more attractive. This study is still limited because jumping to a conclusion based on the responses of 112 undergraduates is absurd but the psychological value of the results are still high and should still be considered. Anyway, my name is Trinikid and you've just been informed.